Tressie McMillan Cottom Atlanta, Georgia

I met my husband 5 years ago. I always thought he was the man of my dreams. John is a man that prides himself on being the man others are jealous of and other women want. He was kind, fun, smart, and extremely attractive. After a 2 year courtship, we got married and had two kids. Shortly after that we uprooted the family from Michigan and moved to Atlanta, Georgia. John is an education consultant and so it wasn’t surprising when he was asked to head up a fledgling education startup that was partnering with a University.
As soon as we move to Atlanta, John changed. I understood that the family was going to take a backseat because of the startup but I had no idea that John would meet a woman at the University who would ultimately change our world.
Tressie McMillan Cottom is that woman. Tressie has been having an extramarital affair with my husband John since August of this year! I became aware of Tressie when John would go on and on about the work she does and how she was offering her services in ways that were harder to measure. That didn’t make me wonder what he meant. So while in the shower I would take his phone and read his text messages. I tried and ignored the flirtatious texts that Tressie would regularly send to my husband. There was a pit in my stomach but I told myself it was harmless. When the voicemail messages started to arrive I couldn’t ignore the signs anymore.
I confronted John and he admitted that Tressie’s texts and voicemails were unprofessional but he denied the affair. I believed him until I started checking his account and saw two charges that seemed weird. I called the bank and was told they were flower purchases. I know I didn’t receive the flowers, so who were they for?
John confessed that he had been intimate with Tressie on 5 different occasions after I confronted him with the flower purchases! John told me it was only fellatio but I don’t know what to believe now because clearly he’s a liar.
If that wasn’t bad enough, John said that he wasn’t happy anymore and despite Tressie’s looks, she swept him off his feet. A 5 year relationship was thrown out the window for oral sex? I’m confused and sad and heartbroken. I’ve left the family home and moved back to Michigan. John and I have not been in contact since this has happened. The only reason I’m posting this is because I don’t think it’s fair that Tressie and John can try to build something while I’m left to pick up the pieces. What about our children? What about our marriage?

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Posted: September 8, 2015, 3:09 am